When entering parenthood, there are many adjustments, challenges, assumptions, and expectations. When you hear the terms perinatal or postpartum, they are typically associated with women (the birthing parent). It is commonly assumed that fathers are supposed to be the “rock” of the family that they do not know what they are doing, and that they must constantly check in with the “lead” parent. However, fathers experience several changes too. Research shows that postpartum depression affects not only the birthing parent but also the fathers. According to the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecologists, 1 in 10 new fathers suffer from postpartum depression. Contributors to a partner’s depression include:
- Feeling Burdened or Trapped
- Financial Responsibility
- Feeling Outside the Circle of Attention
- Missing Sexual Relationship
- Sleep Deprivation
- Isolation And Loneliness
Fathers may exhibit symptoms of depression differently than the birthing parent. Rather than the typical sadness that is associated with depression, men may increase substance abuse and are more likely to be irritable, aggressive, and/or hostile. Fathers may also distance themselves and increase self-isolation. They can also be distracted easily and develop new habits. Research suggests that rates of depression in men and fathers are underestimated. Men are more likely to underreport the traditional symptoms of depression due to the cultural conceptions of masculinity imposed on and internalized by men.
Fatherhood is a significant role, and men should be supported in this journey. The consequences of not seeking help for untreated postpartum depression and other mood and anxiety disorders can cause symptoms to worsen over time. Screening and early intervention can protect the well-being of fathers and the entire family.
If you or someone you know is experiencing postpartum depression or any other perinatal mood and anxiety disorders, please encourage them to reach out to a healthcare provider, mental health professional, or Postpartum Support International (www.postpartum.net/). And remember you are not alone!
Hillary Aponte-Chimelis, LPC, PMH-C, R-PLC
Emotional Compass
4641 Pottsville Pike, suite 101B
Reading, PA 19605
Phone: 484-509-1038
*Emotional Compass specializes in bilingual perinatal mental health services.
