Enhancing Father-Infant Bonding with Support from Women. There are many changes when becoming a parent. Oftentimes, the mother and baby get most of the attention during pregnancy, at follow-up appointments, and even from visitors once the baby is born. But what about the dads? It is undeniable that fathers play a crucial and influential role in shaping a child’s life. The presence of positive male role models in their own upbringing can significantly impact their effectiveness as fathers and offer valuable insights into their caregiving abilities.
Becoming a father can be a wonderful experience, however, it can also be terrifying. This responsibility can trigger self-doubt and immense amounts of pressure to be the provider. I have witnessed firsthand the connection between becoming a parent and reflecting on childhood experiences (consciously or subconsciously) and the types of figures you had in your life.
As a soon-to-be mother of three under three, I am determined to ensure that my husband does not feel excluded from the bonding experiences with our children, and I most certainly do not want to do all the work by myself. The following are some valuable tips that I found helpful in my role as a mother and in guiding my husband in bonding with our children:
- Encouraging the other parents to insert themselves in the day-to-day activities/routine. Active involvement in daily tasks can foster parental confidence and promote consistency by providing a clear understanding of expectations. For this to happen, the women/moms/caregivers must give up a little bit of that control!
- Words of affirmation. This can help create more positive feelings and less defensiveness when giving a suggestion. No parent wants to be criticized for their efforts.
- Communication is key. It is important for parents to regularly communicate with each other, fostering open dialogue to minimize miscommunication and promote a strong sense of teamwork. This transition impacts everyone and communication will ensure that everyone is on the same page and getting the support that they need.
Hillary Aponte-Chimelis, LPC, PMH-C, R-PLC
H. Aponte-Chimelis Counseling
4641 Pottsville Pike, suite 101B
Reading, PA 19605
Phone: 484-509-1038
