There are countless red flags that show us when a relationship is toxic. However, many times we overlook them. This is a big mistake that leads us to be part of a destructive cycle, thus affecting our lives and mental health. There are two characteristics that are present in many of these cases. Learn to recognize them and distance yourself while you still can.
The first characteristic is the constant complaints. These people are never satisfied with their lives, but they do not really seek your advice (you will know because they don’t follow it) they just want someone to comfort them and fix it for them.
The second characteristic is victimization. The whole universe revolves around them, and they have many imaginary enemies. These people start rumors and try to damage the reputation of those around them if they do not act in a way that benefits them. They live from misfortune to misfortune either by fate, by accidents, or caused by others, but never as a result of their own decisions. Accepting responsibility for the consequences would imply having to change their behavior and that requires too much effort from them. They feel better whining and looking for codependents to give them what they want through guilt and/or love.
These people not only drain you of your peace, but they affect your stability financially, emotionally, and mentally dragging you off the cliff with them if you allow it. However, at some point we all have complained or felt that we were victims of situations, so how can we identify if the person is toxic? You will know because these two characteristics, the constant complaining and the victimization, are predominant in most of their private conversations with you. If this is the case, get as far as you can, while you have a chance, as once they recognize that you are no longer of any use to them, they will add you to the imaginary enemies list.
Raidily Lopez
Real Estate Investor
