Men Are Also Victims of Intimate Partner Violence. It might be surprising to imagine a man as someone who is being abused by their partner, whether it’s within a heterosexual partnership or a same-sex partnership. According to the CDC, 1 in 10 men in the U.S. experience intimate partner violence (IPV) during their lifetime.
Men of all shapes, sizes-, and orientations suffer abuse within their relationships. That abuse can be psychological, sexual, or physical. Abuse leaves victims with more than just bruises. Emotionally, victims are scarred, and often traumatized and emotional scars can be harder to heal, as many men find it difficult to admit they are being abused.
Here are some examples of IPV and how it can show up in a partnership:
- Verbal Abuse: Name-calling, insulting appearance, shaming
- Physical Abuse: Any kind of aggressive physical contact to exert power or control
- Sexual abuse & Sexual Coercion: Using sex to have control over a partner, whether withholding sex to punish or coerce, or forcing sex.
What it can look like: IPV relationships can look and feel very normal between episodes of abuse and the victim may get a false sense of security because things are calmer or seem okay. So many partners stay longer because it’s easy to justify when things are good.
What to do if you or someone you love is a victim: According to Domesticshelters.org “48.8% of all men have dealt with some sort of psychological aggression by an intimate partner.”
It’s difficult for a lot of men to identify as the victim because our society talks more openly about women who experience abuse. It fits more of the gender stereotype. For men who are being abused, it can be harder for them to admit or even understand.
By Genesis Santiago and Rebecca Doubek