Why are Opinionated Woman, called BITCHES?
While growing up, I thought in order to get people to like me I had to be nice. I was careful not to hurt people’s feelings, even if swallowing my feelings was the consequence. I learned not to express my feelings because that would make people, not like me; however, I decided to become assertive as an adult woman. In consequence, I have been called a BITCH!
Standing up for yourself is a good thing in any situation, and it means you are assertive and confident about your mindset, emotions, and self-expression. It doesn’t matter if people call you a bitch or crazy just because you express your opinions; you are not here to be friendly and smile when the situation really calls for you to stand up firm when saying your views.
The problem today is the double standard for someone’s opinion. If a man talks assertively, the community is impressed by the courage to stand up for himself. The other standard applies if a woman does the same: name-calling or being a bitch. This judgment is because women naturally nurture and take care of others; therefore, we should be nice and smile no matter what happens at work, home, or situation.
We are not bitches for having strong opinions; we are powerful, passionate, and assertive because we say our truth. Don’t take it personally if someone calls you a bitch or another term. In reality, you are their mirror where their lack of confidence and intimidation reflects back on them. Remember, some people don’t know how to handle your confidence, and that is ok.
Josephina Encarnacion, MS, MSHRM
Business Growth Educator and Spiritual Coach
My Source Entrepreneur