Sexual Relationship Concerns
Let’s start with an example: “After 6 years in a relationship, my significant other has decreased the frequency of our sex life. We have talked about this more than I can tell you. I asked her many questions, is it me? You don’t love me anymore? Am I not attractive enough to you? And the answer to all my questions is it’s my hormones.”
Did you know that human beings are sexual creatures? We use intimacy to connect, to relieve tension, to share emotions, to love. But what happens when that need is not met?
For this 52-year-old male, he is still trying to figure out what’s happening and tries to work things out for the good of the relation. He sees a lot of good attributes, but he is also thinking about his physical needs.
Yes, females and males go through many body changes, mental, physical, and emotions while aging. It’s important to be up to date with your medical care and talk about those changes with your medical team. They should be able to run a battery of tests and provide treatment if necessary.
I will recommend openly talking about what is the expectation from each of the parties involved. Let’s be honest, we can connect in different ways, or we can reduce the frequency of a normal sexual life. Let’s communicate what we like and how we Ike it. Talk about it and see if can come up with a happy medium and have some commitment for the benefit of that relationship. Leaving your partner just due to not having your sexual desires met should not be the sole reason.
Intimacy can be spiced up and new things introduced to the relationship if in agreement. There are many ways to be intimate with your partner besides sex. Let’s show empathy to those changes that will be happening and educate ourselves on them. Instead of trying to get that sexual intimacy or connection elsewhere let’s find ways to make it happen at home.
Brenda Rivera, BSW