There was a time in my life where I worked, studied, and raised my four children. The day was barely enough for me to fulfill my responsibilities, but I didn’t quit my job or college. Graduating from college was a promise I made to my mother when I got married without finishing school. I still remember her look of pleasure when I handed her my diploma. It wasn’t easy, but I was able to do it.
As a social worker, my advice especially to women was always to finish their studies. There is no better satisfaction than knowing that you can fend for yourself. You feel the freedom to choose a partner and not a sponsor. That makes the couple’s relationships more solid. However, you have to establish the rules of the game in order to achieve this. The home has to be cooperative. Each of the members must have responsibilities and benefits.
It is our responsibility that the formula at home is equitable. We must trust the partner and teach him to overcome machismo. This way they will be able to achieve all the goals that each one proposes. My husband became a lawyer after we were married, and I earned my master’s degree in liberal arts. We helped each other to achieve the best for ourselves and our family. My mother only made it to fifth grade, but I still remember her advice “study so you don’t have to depend on anyone”. Today I echo her words and tell advice you to choose a partner and not a sponsor. Happy Women’s Day!
María M. García, BA, MA
