Have you noticed extra arguing lately with your spouse or significant other? Rumors are there is going to be a big wave of divorce filings due to COVID-19. If this is true it’s truly sad because a solid marriage should be able to withstand a quarantine situation. When you are married you become a team, and teams need to do teamwork.
If the word divorce is being thrown around solely because you are too much in each other faces then give yourself additional space and give him or her their space as well. Marriage is about a compromise and working things out together. Also, keep in mind that due to COVID an extra crapload is being thrown at us right now and not just you and your family but everyone globally.
Let’s start with the big one, financial stress, there are so many folks without income and this is usually the number one divorce reason now you mix being confined in the same space while you are going through financial hardships and this just complicates things. Then if you have children all day saying “I’m bored” believe me things are going to get tough for a while and you will need to make a plan like a family to alleviate some stress until this is all over.
I know we say it’s a perfect time for family but we must be realistic that even the most loving people need their own space at times. Give yourself space and give someone else the space they need to miss you. Make sure to include quiet time in the entire house. For example, from this time to this time there will be no loud music, TV blaring, etc. This helps everyone think and better cope with their thoughts or concerns. Adults aren’t the only ones going through pains, children and teens do as well, respect that.
We haven’t even touched topics like deaths, domestic violence, depression, and drug and alcohol abuse mixed into the pot. Keep in mind that after COVID every one that is still alive will be a survivor and we all deserve love, empathy, and compassion. Let’s work together as a family!
Rosa Julia Parra
CEO, Palo Magazine