I have the greatest love story of all time and I want you to have the same love story as me. I have been married for years now but my love story just started about 15 months ago. How is that possible you may ask? It’s because my authentic love story began when I started to LOVE myself again.
We are taught to love and help others to a point where we continue to put ourselves last. We do this one too many times and to the point that we lose ourselves and we struggle a lifetime trying to find our true authentic self again.
There are different versions of us. There is us that we take to work, the us that is with our friends and the us that we present in public versus at home. Not only until you learn to love yourself will you take the authentic self everywhere you go. And when you do you will realize that you will walk lighter, as you don’t have all the pressures of being so many versions of you. No one ever wants to admit it and that is why there are so many mental illnesses and issues in the world.
I have slowly learned that saying NO is part of loving myself. The words; “No sorry I may not help you out at this time” aren’t bad words. You see sometimes anxiety makes you think that you must always be doing something. We as humans forget that it’s ok to be still and enjoy the quiet. Don’t confuse your quiet time as not having anything to do or being bored. When you take out time for you, you are enriching your mind and soul first.
I’m back in my hobby of reading books and I also started to meditate. Sadly at the age of 47, I had never realized that I didn’t know how to just be. I now welcome any silent time that I can get as I’m no longer afraid of what the silence has to say to me. Today I’m closer to the real authentic me and that only leads to more self-love and we all know you can only give love when you know how to love yourself first.
Rosa Julia Parra