How many of you are already planning your daughter’s fifteenth or sixteenth birthday party but have no additional money set aside to help her with her continued education after high school?
I’m referring to the extravagant party being planned by not rich parents and possibly spending five or ten thousand dollars or more just for a birthday party. Parents, do you realize this is just about two years shy of your daughter’s high school graduation? Not to mention the stress being added to your family’s finances? Why not take your family on a vacation for an entire week and still not even come close to spending ten-thousand dollars for 5 hours?
The second reason I personally dislike the idea is that I believe mixed signals are being sent to teenage daughters by replacing her flat shoes with high heels and telling her she is now a woman. Parents wake up because fifteen and women don’t belong in the same sentence. I truly believe that all traditions or customs should not be repeated without truly understanding them and asking if this tradition suits your immediate family. I feel some traditions need to be questioned, challenged, tweaked or just not exist at all. Otherwise, we may be repeating errors or disasters of the past. I believe that some traditions hold you and or your family back.
Thirdly why aren’t we doing the same party for boys? How are we celebrating the good young gentlemen of today? Again leading girls to think they are special or entitled. We say we want equality but we remain selective.
We need to stop doing everything our ancestors did without questioning. Let’s stop and think about why we do things and perhaps make changes that benefit your family. I for one didn’t give my children the option of a party because I told them I was putting that money towards their college. If however, you have money for both, great but still process what traditions you will practice at that party and stop giving mixed signals to our children; we must celebrate them all and teach them about finances young. Think & Question Yourself.
By Rosa J. Parra