Sometimes we repeat what and how our parents speak or spoke. However times have changed and we need to think about what we say before saying it. Some of what we heard growing up was inappropriate and could be mentally damaging to your kids.
Here are a few examples: When we see a young lady around the age of 15 years old, in the Latino culture it’s common for an adult to say; “ya es toda una Mujer” meaning; “now she has become a woman”, but she is not a woman she is a young girl. However,r if the same girl were to get pregnant then we would say “she is a baby having a baby”. When we see a school age boy we will ask him “¿cuantas novias tienes?” Meaning; how many girlfriends do you have? Another words; teaching boys that they are entitled and it is accepted in society that boys have more than one girlfriend at a time. It’s wrong for various reasons as a child in elementary school you shouldn’t have a girlfriend or boyfriend and surely not more than one at a time when you are of age to have one. We as grown- ups need to stop sending these confusing messages. Most times these messages come because we repeat what we heard growing up and it needs to stop; think before you talk.
Another example is we tell our girls that they are in preparation or training for cleaning and cooking for their husbands but when they marry an abusive husband who expects this because we have been teaching our boys that your wife must wash your clothes and cook for you. Instead, let’s teach them that they need to learn these skills so that they can be independent. We should also teach cooking and cleaning skills to both boys and girls. Teach boys that the wife is not your slave. I feel our old ways of thinking are destroying the future marriages of this young generation as they also will go into the relationships expecting things from their partners solely based on if they are female or male.
So next time before you say something ‘think about it first”. Are you sending the wrong message? Be careful of sayings and repeating them.