In “The Prophet” Kahlil Gibran said: “Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They come through you, but they are not really yours. And although they are with you, they do not belong to you. You can give them your love, but not your thoughts because they have their own thoughts. “
When we analyze those wise words, we realize that the function of the mother is not as easy as it seems. In most cases, we pretend that our children still always children. We do not realize that we are only the instrument for a child to reach this planet and become a responsible adult. That child that we bring to the world and that we do not want to let go of our side grows and will reflect the examples that we give him. Not the arguments, those are lost in time and space.
That is the reason why we must practice our function with a lot of love and a lot of responsibility. Give our children our time, love, meet their needs and in turn, give them responsibilities. That they learn from childhood that life is complicated and teach them to develop the necessary resilience to face the adversities that bring and fully enjoy the joys.
As the Prophet said; “Because life doesn’t move backward, nor stagnate in yesterday. You are the arcs for your children, living arrows, to launch into space.”
We do not intend to live the lives of our children. We are going to give them space to develop their creativity and their unique personality.
In this way, we will be free to fully enjoy the eternal love of a mother with her children.
Happy Mother’s Day and many blessings.
Maria M. Garcia Santiago, BA, MA