Adolescence is a stage where many changes take shape, not only on a physical level but also on an emotional level. It is there when many of the parents present a picture of desperation, specifically, the inability to handle the various changes that occur in their children during this period. In my professional career, I have dealt with many cases that have been related to conflicts between parents and their adolescent children.
On many occasions, I have heard from parents saying, “This child is tremendous and I do not know what to do.” It is at this moment, where I have observed that the frustration level of the parents is very alarming, to the point that it begins to affect the entire family. Many of the behaviors presented in this stage are the common denominator among many adolescents and where they scale to an uncontrollable level. For example, the lack of respect; the use of controlled substances; the adolescent’s lack of interest in participating in family activities; poor academic performance; do not follow the expectations of the home or authorities; and among others, they are part of the situations presented in adolescence.
It is imperative that parents remain calm and try to establish a relationship of trust with their children. This can be achieved as soon as the adolescent can perceive that their parents support them; show them unconditional love; accept their points of view even if they do not agree with them; when parents listen to them and do not judge; and most importantly, that your child feels that you are a helping entity in his process of growth and maturity. The key to the success of your relationship with your teenager will be based on mutual respect and the quality of time you will devote to it.